By Ron C.

The state of recovery isn’t an end state of not using … it is a process of sobriety, relapse, success, failure, joy and pain… and a lot of work

If we could all realize that we are addicts and that not using was the answer … and could do that … this list and recovery programs wouldn’t exist.

When I realized that I was alcoholic and must become abstinent … that was the beginning of my discovery of why I used, when I used, what kept me from stopping before and what was preventing me from maintaining sobriety now.

The denial part is: if you don’t see recovery as a process … you are in denial of the difficulty and work that is required … you will self blame and other blame rather than slipping and then immediately getting back to the work of figuring out how the hell that happened so that it won’t happen that way again.