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It’s All Fun and Games: Girls Just Wanna Have Fun!

Hi friends. I almost hate writing this post, but I really can’t seem to help myself, so…let me begin by properly introducing myself:

Hi, I’m Bobbi, and I’m a complete and total buzzkill.

Wait – whaaa’?

That’s right. I’m a buzzkill – Bobbi Bummer Buzzkill, at your service. It seems that since I’ve become a “person in long-term recovery” (i.e. bboorrr-iiinnng), I’ve noticed with a combination of amusement and horror the ridiculous lengths to which we find new and dumber ways to perpetuate the drinking myth – that alcohol will take care of just about everything, and therefore should be in just about everything – in our culture. Which I then feel compelled to share with all of you.

I’m sure some of you may be thinking, “So what? Why do this?” To which I can only say, you’re right – who the hell do I think I am, coming down on people who can have their fun without me poo-pooing this and tsk-tsking that like I’m some kind of pseudo-In- Long-Term Recovery-Church Lady?

Well, for the record, I can ignore people and their drinking quite easily – do it all the time, actually, and hardly ever think much about it. People drink and have a good time, people get drunk and do fun/silly/stupid shit, people get drunk and kill themselves, people get drunk and kill other people –  it’s all just another day in the life in America.

But lately (OK, yesterday), throughout my time online I was peppered with several of these fun-coded messages of Ain’t This Great-ness, all involving alcohol, geared mostly toward women, all…day…long. At first I just went with the flow, but by the end of it my “Oh, dear god, you have GOT to be kidding me” meter had reached the saturation point, and now, well, I have to say something.

First was this cute, funny, very timely “IMomSoHard” video about what women of a certain age with an average body type/figure have to deal with come swimsuit season, and just how utterly ridiculous it can be. Allow me to say this: I really like it! I get a real kick out of these ladies and love where they’re coming from, ‘cuz, um, I can totally relate – and I’m not even a Mommy!

So I hate to complain, you know? I wonder, what would this video have looked like without the wine, though? I’m sure it would’ve been just as funny and just as good. It only makes a somewhat subtle appearance, like it’s just the perfect conversation piece to accompany the subject matter at hand – women having to put up with the outrageous expectations of what being a woman is in this day and age – and no doubt a prop to signify it’s just a part of the fun.

OK, I get that. Mommys gotta have their wine, fine, whatever.

But…were those mini bottles of booze I saw sitting on the red chair in the background during their posing sesh? Like, maybe this video was brought to us by Bacardi? No, no, it’s probably just those little sample bottles of perfume. Or mouthwash. Or something.

Then a little later on in the day I came across this Cosmopolitan Magazine post on Hip Sobriety’s Facebook page, and then the meter started really registering in little fits. The old-fashioned flask aside, this business of sneaking fermented beverages in somewhere with you on your person in such a manner isn’t really anything new, believe it or not. “The Beer Belly” and “The Wine Rack” came into vogue years ago, and as you can see on their pages they retail right along with several other such handy little items on Amazon.

How convenient! What hilarity! I mean, it’s only wine, fer chrissakes, not, like, vodka or something. I’m sure that Cosmo girl doesn’t have a problem or anything.

And I used to think that was a pretty ingenious idea, actually – but even when I was still drinking you couldn’t have paid me enough to try doing such a thing, at work or any place else. (Wait, does this mean I’ve always been Bbooorrr-iiinnng™?) Now it just seems desperate, cheap, and really, not all that funny.

Hip Sobriety’s eloquent words on the subject (Note: the post comes up but then directly links to Cosmo’s video – just X out of the video page and you should be able to read it) reminded me of – and stated much more effectively than I can – the reasons why this shit bothers me, so I’m most happy to see I’m not alone.

And last, but certainly not least, I came across the final insult of the day (on a website called “Thrillist”): Yes, Virginia, we have rum raisin ice cream – hold the raisin…

To which I can only ask, “Why is this needed?” To which I can only hear so many fun, urbane, cosmopolitan, sophisticated, young(-)ish ladies answering, “Why not? God, stop being such a stick in the mud!”

Oh, right, that. Sorry…


P.S. For those of you wondering about, and still waiting for, Part 2 of my series “On Belief”, I’m still working on it, and will be publishing it in short order. Honest! 🙂





New Meeting in Vancouver, BC Starts May 4th!


A new meeting will begin next Thursday May 4th, our second LifeRing meeting in the beautiful city of Vancouver, British Columbia in Canada. All the information is below:

When: Thursdays at 7:00 PM, beginning May 4th.

Where: Three Bridges Community Health Centre, 1292 Hornby Street, Vancouver, BC, V6Z 1W2 Canada 

Convenor/Meeting Focus: Peter O./How Was Your Week?

Convenor Contact Info.: Email –

We wish Peter and all new meeting members our very best!



It’s All Fun and Games…Pour Votre Santé!


Well dear readers, what can I tell you? When it comes to our national obsession with making sure alcohol’s a part of everything we do, I think I may have finally seen it all. And I just…I just…I just…

Here, just read it: The Weird Intersection of Booze and Fitness Could Be Big Business For Both Sides (filed under “Wellness”, of course).

The fact that very few readers find anything wrong with this in their Comments is not a big surprise, although I do wonder what sorts of responses they might come up with if they were confronted with, say, studies that show drinking alcohol post-exercise doesn’t exactly go together like peanut butter and jelly (or, a peanut butter and chocolate protein shake. Or something). Clearly it won’t cause any of the participating gyms or booze-merchants looking for a great new way to make a buck (or their marks) to re-think it, so…

What’s next? Bar service at the ER? We all know what a long, boring, emotionally-wrought ordeal that can be. Better yet, how about offering patients a nice glass of heart-healthy vino in physicians’ waiting rooms? Along with the pharmaceutical representatives who hound doctors’ offices with free samples and goody bags, wine sellers and a discerning in-office concierge could make a such a difference in the stressful lives of patients and their physicians (not to mention their staffs).

Speaking of staffs, I’m reminded of a story a doctor I used to work for told me about finally establishing with Primary Care Physician after years of avoidance – doctors are notoriously derelict patients – who extolled the virtues of at least 3 -4 glasses of wine daily to him.  Suffice it to say, he found that a bit…excessive.

Even for your health!


New LifeRing Candlelight Meeting In Lewisham, London, UK!






We are very pleased to announce that Lee C., meetings convenor/starter extraordinaire, has announced there will be a new meeting beginning this Friday evening in the London Borough of Lewisham! And to add a new dimension to the standard “How Was Your Week?” (HWYW) format, this meeting will also be candlelit.

For those of you who’ve never attended a candlelight meeting and aren’t sure what that means, my understanding of the idea of the candlelight* is to help create a calming, intimate, and safe space for participants to share more openly than perhaps they would in a more typically brightly lit atmosphere. However, if you have any questions or would like more information, please feel free to contact Lee anytime – see the contact information below.

Please also feel free to check out our LifeRing London’s Facebook page here, as well as Lee’s LifeRing London blog page here.

Here’s the meeting info.:


When: Fridays at 7:15 P.M.

Where: Lochaber Hall, Manor Lane Terrace, Lewisham, London SE13 5QL

Convenor: Lee C.

Contact Information: E-mail:


We wish Lee and all new meeting members the very best!


* And Now For a Moment of Fairness in Reporting: By “my understanding”, I mean me, Bobbi C.. I’ve never attended a candlelight meeting myself, so my interpretation – informed by other people who have attended such a meeting – may not be accurate. In other words, don’t take it from me – please contact Lee! 🙂



New LifeRing Meeting at Laguna Honda Hospital In San Francisco!

Laguna Honda Hospital

LifeRing is proud and pleased as punch to announce a new meeting, open to patients and the public, at Laguna Honda Hospital in San Francisco beginning next Wednesday, July 6th. Every new meeting is a big deal to us, but this meeting has especially important story behind it we’d like to tell you about, as well.

Per the meeting’s convenor, LifeRing Board of Directors Chair Byron Kerr:

“The exciting thing about this is that the City of San Francisco invited LifeRing to begin this meeting, which sends an implicit endorsement of LifeRing support to the recovery world. Laguna Honda Hospital, which is owned and operated by the Department of Public Health of the City & County of San Francisco, invited LifeRing to begin support meetings at the hospital in April of 2015. After more than a year of discussion, access badging, volunteer orientation, and interviews from both perspectives, we are ready to start.”

Check out the meeting information below:

When: Wednesdays at 7:30 PM, beginning on July 6th

WhereLaguna Honda Hospital and Rehabilitation Center, 1st Floor Art Studio, 375 Laguna Honda Blvd. San Francisco , CA 94116

Convenor: Byron Kerr

Contact Information: Telephone: 925-922-3553 E-mail:

Our sincerest thanks go out to the Department of Public Health, City and County of San Francisco, and to Laguna Honda Hospital for inviting us to serve their patients and community. Congratulations to Byron and all new meeting members – we wish you all the best!