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Keeper of the Month – September

Stay Calm

 

One of the most magical things that happens in LifeRing’s e-mail groups is that someone new(er) to the group who may be struggling or have multiple relapses under their belt might post something about how difficult it’s been for them, but how it’s so seemingly easy for others…

And then the group does what it does best, and post after post from other members who’ve been through much the same things roll in, and the original poster realizes they’re really, truly not alone, and that despite everything they’ve been through, there really, truly is hope for them, too.

This month’s Keeper is one such response from long-time group member Richard:

[Replying after another member told their story] “…my story is such that I can’t tell it even in the space you used. So here is the very truncated version for you and anybody else who might benefit.

 I’m one of those folks who drank to excess from the time I started. I was surrounded in my youth with lots of other big drinkers and drug-takers, and I managed to function (i.e.,get up and go to work, or school) most of the time, despite being out of control with uppers, pot, acid, always accompanied by lots and lots of booze.
 
When I turned 30, I had my first kid, and then a couple of years later had another one on the way. Until then, the big deal was the few times I had stopped for a week or two, just to prove I could do it. But I knew I needed help, and finally sought it, entering a rehab in the summer of ’84. I had to go back again in the spring of ’85, and this time it stuck for a decade.
 
I was directed to AA and found a home there, of sorts. My life improved significantly, although of course I still had a lot of  ‘issues.’ I remain grateful to this day that I was sober throughout much of my kid’s youth, despite having split with their mom after a few years.
 
Finally, nearly ten years after stopping, I decided (while on a business trip in the midst of a painful break-up), that going on a little bender ‘just this once,’ would be okay. After all, I had been in therapy most of the ten years I’d been sober, and told myself I had ‘grown’ so much that I’d have no problem resuming long-term sobriety. I lasted a couple of months, and then the drinking times started getting closer and closer.
 
So, I stumbled inadvertently into LifeRing 15 years ago, and started putting together some longish periods of sobriety, but I never seemed to hold onto it. Finally, in February of 2010, I began what is now by far my second longest period of sobriety, which is continuing.
 
I should stress that not everybody struggles, and I do have to say that I have no doubt that my extended periods of sobriety probably saved my life. I figure I’ve been sober over 20 of the last 31 years, just counting periods of longer than one year, plus I know I have around half a dozen six month stretches. Nonetheless, there is no substitute for continuous sobriety, at least not for me. Things don’t always get wonderful right off the bat, but you give yourself a darn good chance to get the most out of life. We all have learned that the other way is just fighting a losing battle against misery.”
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When Dehydrated Beans and Mystery Meat Just Won’t Do…

isn’t it good to know Taco Bell’s gonna start serving booze*?!

Ay, chihuahua**.

*Do not view (or go to Taco Bell in the near future) if pictures of alcohol trigger you.

**View if you like adorable pictures of sad chihuahuas.

Keeper of the Summer (July and August 2015)

What can I say, dear blog friends? It’s been a great Spring and Summer for me but in the interim the blog’s been far too neglected, and it’s time to fire her back up.

So, we shall  begin again with this simple, apt, and true to its word quote contributed by our own Dennis M. – who also contributed our last Keeper in June (thanks again, Dennis!):

 

Don't Nurture the Urge

 

To which I can only add, whatever it may be, whenever you know it’s unhealthy for you!

Hope you’ve all had a good one, and see you again soon! 🙂 Bobbi C.

 

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Keeper of the Month – June

Lifering’s e-mail groups are active, thriving communities of people who use them as strong sources of sobriety support, and many members often post remarkably written sources of inspiration, hope and encouragement that many other group members call “Keepers” – posts that they save for themselves so they can go back and look at them as often as they like.

We here at LifeRing like sharing these posts, with the authors’ permission, on our blog so that everyone can enjoy them as much as our group members do.

REMEMBER its just a bad day

This month’s post is contributed by group member Dennis M., who touches on a concept many of us discover somewhere in early recovery, sometimes much to our chagrin: Life doesn’t stop just because we got clean and sober (aka “The definition of SOBER: Son of a bitch, everything’s real!):

I’ve been thinking, and that can be a challenging task for me.

I had a tough day at work yesterday (way too much uncomfortable, guarded face-to-face social interaction) and then this morning at home I had some plumbing and cable problems and was pissed that so many annoying things keep happening even though I have been on my best sober behavior for some time now.  WTF?

I can be shallow and self-absorbed sometimes and this morning I was all that and more. Then I started thinking…. who the hell am I to think that life will magically reform itself just because I have quit drinking and using? I am not the center around which all things revolve.  As it turns out, my life has gotten easier, my skin fits better but not because the world is doing me a favor because I am “special”.  It’s because I can deal with most problems effectively when sober. And my problems are teeny tiny, real small stuff compared to so many.

I am not special.  I am sober.  I can play the hand I’m dealt without too much complaint.  Being sober has made that possible.   And that is way too important to forget.

It has not, however, changed the way the world spins nor have I undergone some kind of personality metamorphosis.  I can still be selfish and ungrateful.  I’m not special, I’m human.  But, I don’t drink or drug.  And, for me, that was and remains the goal. 

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Keeper of the Month – May

Lifering’s e-mail groups are active, thriving communities of people who use them as strong sources of sobriety support, and many members often post remarkably written sources of inspiration, hope and encouragement that many other group members call “Keepers” – posts that they save for themselves so they can go back and look at them as often as they like.

We here at LifeRing like sharing these posts, with the authors’ permission, on our blog so that everyone can enjoy them as much as our group members do.

It Takes Courage

The words we choose to express ourselves with in our groups are not always our own – sometimes they’re poems, quotes, or excerpts from books and other sources that speak truths about recovery to us such that we then share with one another. They very often spark deep conversations, and are almost always well-received .

Here are two wonderful examples recently shared by fellow LifeRingers:

“When I took the leap and left the fence,
there was a brief period of free-fall and a slightly lumpy landing.
Since then, the decision having been made, with no thought of going back,
life has gotten better, and better, and better.
There is nothing like real freedom.
If you’ve taken the leap–welcome! Welcome to the beginning of the rest of your life!”
– Coby S.
 
“I don’t perceive reality perfectly, and I don’t know everything.  In fact, I know only a tiny fragment of the knowable things.  And I filter my perceptions through my expectations and wishes – filters that are often distorted.  Listening to other people gives me a reality check. It gives me a clue about whether I’m overthinking or under thinking, overreacting or underreacting, being self-absorbed or not taking enough care of myself….And it gives me a clue about whether I’m doing none of those things and am doing just fine.”
– Greta Christina
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