Keeper of the Month – May

Lifering’s e-mail groups are active, thriving communities of people who use them as strong sources of sobriety support, and many members often post remarkably written sources of inspiration, hope and encouragement that many other group members call “Keepers” – posts that they save for themselves so they can go back and look at them as often as they like.

We here at LifeRing like sharing these posts, with the authors’ permission, on our blog so that everyone can enjoy them as much as our group members do.

It Takes Courage

The words we choose to express ourselves with in our groups are not always our own – sometimes they’re poems, quotes, or excerpts from books and other sources that speak truths about recovery to us such that we then share with one another. They very often spark deep conversations, and are almost always well-received .

Here are two wonderful examples recently shared by fellow LifeRingers:

“When I took the leap and left the fence,
there was a brief period of free-fall and a slightly lumpy landing.
Since then, the decision having been made, with no thought of going back,
life has gotten better, and better, and better.
There is nothing like real freedom.
If you’ve taken the leap–welcome! Welcome to the beginning of the rest of your life!”
– Coby S.
“I don’t perceive reality perfectly, and I don’t know everything.  In fact, I know only a tiny fragment of the knowable things.  And I filter my perceptions through my expectations and wishes – filters that are often distorted.  Listening to other people gives me a reality check. It gives me a clue about whether I’m overthinking or under thinking, overreacting or underreacting, being self-absorbed or not taking enough care of myself….And it gives me a clue about whether I’m doing none of those things and am doing just fine.”
– Greta Christina


  1. Angela on May 24, 2015 at 8:32 am

    Hi Rob,

    Just wanted to chime in here with some extra support for you. I don’t know if you know about our e-mail lists, but you might find them especially helpful right now. You can get a lot of support and encouragement.

    I’ve had a helluva time getting and staying sober, but one thing I never ever do is give up. Don’t you either.

    Take care,


  2. Lisa J on May 21, 2015 at 3:21 pm

    Hi Rob, I wan to applaud you for being brave enough to comment here, and for pursuing your desire to live a sober life. I struggled for a long time too, and I’m still in what my counselor calls “early sobriety” (just over a year in). When I got started, when I decided I no longer really wanted to use, I actually polled some family members who were in recovery. Some had been in and out of rehabs, and had taken years to finally get sober for any amount of time. They all told me – start with a rehab or a structured program. Make a commitment, somewhere where you will be held accountable. Then no matter how hard it gets, no matter what the program asks of you – stick with it. It was a scary leap. Terrifying, in fact. But I did it, and I am glad I did. I’m not saying I know the path your recovery will take, I don’t at all. Just sharing my experience in hopes it will be helpful to you in any way. I am totally new to this forum so I don’t know messages etc. however feel free to send me one also if you would like 🙂 – Lisa

  3. Rob H. on May 20, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    I’m struggling…with my DOC. I attend LifeRing meetings, but I just can’t stop using.

    • Bobbi C. on May 20, 2015 at 2:44 pm

      Hey Rob, I hear you. It’s terribly difficult, trying to put down our DOC and leave it there! I’m glad you’re going to meetings – that’s a very, very good thing. Are you doing anything else right now? I ask because as some wise LifeRingers have said over the years, “It takes what it takes,” and that very often means different things for different people, so it sounds like you need more than meetings right now.

      We’re here for you, so let me know what we can do to help! If you wouldn’t care to discuss it here then I’d be happy to e-mail you – just let me know -and in the meantime know that you’re not alone, hopeless, helpless, or powerless. Take care.