On LifeRing’s 2016 Conference: The Opposite of Addiction Is Connection

Well, my dear blog friends, you’ve waited long enough. 

As you know, LifeRing held its annual conference earlier this month in beautiful San Diego this year, and I know you’ve been dying to hear aaaaallll about it…

Before we get started, though, my sense of propriety requires that I must warn you that I thought in order to share the immediacy of these events with the wider LifeRing world – since in addition to being the blogstress I’m now LifeRing’s “Facebook person” and everything – that it would be a good idea to try being one of these live Facebooker people and post stuff on our Facebook page as the conference went along.

I mean, how hard can it be, amiright? Yeah!

I even downloaded a nifty app that allows one to access more than one social media account at a time on their smart phones, which I’m happy to report works like a charm. (Honestly. I give it 5 stars!) I proceeded to take pictures, and then spent hours trying to upload them and post them to Facebook with limited degrees of success.

Therefore, you get to enjoy the sucky pics I took in all their bleary-eyed glory* (thanks again to Dan Carrigan for getting a coupla great shots). 

So, here it is – my take on things, for the second year running**. Thilling, idn’t it?


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Byron K., Craig W., and Jackie J. at the 2016 LifeRing Conference Meet and Greet

Byron K., Craig W., and Jackie J. at the 2016 LifeRing Conference Meet and Greet

First and foremost, I’d like to offer my sincerest thanks to folks like Rob Mullally and the treatment professionals at Lasting Recovery Outpatient Rehab and Treatment Center in San Diego – which offers 4 (count ’em, 4!) of our meetings at their facility – for the roles they played in hosting our conference this year. They were not only gracious enough to allow us to hold two different portions of our conference in their space, additionally, several members of Lasting Recovery’s staff agreed to give presentations about addiction brain science, how they serve people in recovery, and the state of choice in recovery today.

The conference started on Friday June 3rd with a Meet and Greet at Lasting Recovery’s facility, followed by a workshop, “Leadership By Example, Influence, and Design” conducted by Dave Fletcher, a long-time LifeRing Colorado meeting convenor.

What with my innate wallfloweryness and all, I admit I didn’t mingle as much as I could’ve, but it was still lovely to see so many of the people we met last year in Salt Lake City attending again this year, and meeting a few new people to boot. Rob Mullally, the delightful Irish gentleman who as I mentioned before was instrumental in getting LifeRing installed at Lasting Recovery, is a stand out, as is George from LifeRing Vancouver (both of whom will also likely join the BOD).

One of the very best parts of the entire weekend for my husband and fellow LifeRinger Rich and I was getting to meet Jackie, a long time e-mail list friend I’d never had the pleasure of meeting in person before who made the trip all the way from the East Coast just to join up with some of us list “old-timers” at the conference, especially Craig W. and Rich. It was such a joy!

As it turned out, it was also the perfect opportunity to mention the importance of all connections made in recovery. One of LifeRing’s main missions is starting new meetings – as many as possible in as many places as possible – but one of our main obstacles is giving convenors (and potential convenors) good tutelage on what makes for great meetings they can apply wherever they are.

This is where Dave Fletcher of LifeRing Colorado stepped in and conducted a workshop called “Leadership Through Example, Influence, and Design”. He posed a series of questions, and then we broke off into smaller groups and discussed different ideas and approaches among ourselves about what we thought were our best meeting experiences were. Then the larger group got back together and  presented their favorite things. The biggies? Connection, intimacy, laughter, and motivation.

LSR SD 2016 Workshop Sticky Notes


Afterward a few of us went out for a bite to eat and bit more time to catch up (while I continued futzing around with that damned phone), and then said our our adieus until meeting again Saturday morning at the Qualcomm building auditorium where the main events of the conference were to take place.

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Saturday, June 4th

A word about Qualcomm: It’s the Starbucks of North San Diego; there’s one on every corner. You think I’m kidding, don’t you? Between looking at a map, running around trying to find which one we were going to be meeting in, and the F-15 fighter jets out of Miramar screaming overhead, we found ourselves in heady state of disoriented awe…


Looks a little like measles, don’t it? We’d never seen anything like it. As it turned out, we were meeting in very nice Qualcomm Building Q, which Rob explained how to get to perfectly (which we were able to secure for the very fair price of free, thanks to a friend of his). And which, yes, means there are also Buildings A – P…

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Thusly, once settled in at the ample auditorium space, in the pages of my trusty Dollar General spiral notebook I turned to a clean page following a delish Pork Piccata recipe  to begin taking copious notes, and the conference started off nicely with LifeRing’s own Board of Directors Chair Byron Kerr speaking about “The State of Lifering”.

The highlights of included:

  • New meetings have sprung up throughout the U.S. as well as in Sweden, Ireland, and London, UK.
  • LifeRing in Michigan is looking expand up to 15 meetings!
  • We need more of them! And more convenors willing to train other convenors to sub for them/start new meetings of their own (although we must also accept “No” as a perfectly valid response).
  • Toward this end, we’ve established “Regional Representatives”, headed by Lisa Swing-Corney of LifeRing Akron, to help coordinate and support meetings/convenors throughout the organization, which has been going well
  • Craig and Robert are doing a tremendous amount of work via the LifeRing Service Center office in Berkeley, and one of Craig’s newest ideas – he’s created a new convenor “Care Package” to send to new meeting convenors, which includes signage and literature as well as a donation basket for those convenors who’d like to pass it around to cover meeting costs/collect donations for the org.
  • Byron and others in the organization have been able to attend several conferences over the past year, including the CCAR “Multiple Pathways of Recovery” conference in Groton, CT which opened LifeRing Board Member Njon Weinroth’s presentation, and have made many vital new contacts with others in the recovery community.
  • One of these contacts, “In the Rooms”, has invited us to test using their medium for LifeRing video meetings.
  • Peter Dodge, of the Peter G. Dodge Foundation, was a panelist at a Transcendental Meditation conference Byron attended in Manhattan in 2015. Dodge is one of the few people who’ve ever stated at such an event the fact that they were unable to recovery value for himself in the predominant support model, and that supporting alternative models is of vital importance to other people like him. Suffice it to say, Byron got on with him like a house on fire, and have remained in touch since.
  • We’ve grown over the past year in wider reaches of the general public, including on Facebook and Twitter, and the future looks bright.

Byron’s talk is available on LifeRing’s YouTube channel here.

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Jeff Cox, Lead Counselor at Lasting Recovery, speaking about client-centered treatment in the 21st Century

Jeff Cox, Lead Counselor at Lasting Recovery, speaking about client-centered treatment in the 21st Century

Jeff Cox, Lead Counselor at Lasting Recovery, then spoke about the fact that, regardless of one’s definition of addiction (although he touts the American Society of Addiction Medicine’s definition as the most accurate), Lasting Recovery bases part of its treatment protocols upon the knowledge that people who leave treatment engaged in self-help as well as mutual support groups are typically better off once they go “out there.”

At some point in time, they also decided that the concept of multiple pathways of recovery for all individuals is valid, and deserves recognition and support. As a result, they’ve opened up to recovery resources other than strictly 12 Step, including LifeRing, with success!

Jeff’s talk is available on LifeRing’s YouTube channel here.

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Chenyka Ramos, Lasting Recovery counselor, on "The Dilemma of Change"

Chenyka Ramos, Lasting Recovery counselor, on “The Dilemma of Change”, photo courtesy of Dan Carrigan

The next speaker was Chenyka Ramos, a counselor at Lasting Recovery who talked about what her role is in helping people through what could be described as “The Dilemma of Change.” I think most addicts can certain identify with what that means – it’s the conundrum of being of two minds about your addiction and recovery, of being “stuck” between staying in it and getting out from under it, and all the different feelings of fear and uncertainty both provoke.

It’s a squirrelly place to be, this dilemma. It can range through six different stages – pre-contemplation, contemplation, determination, action, and termination or potential relapse, and back again – like taking one step forward, and two steps back.

Chenyka’s talk is available on LifeRing’s YouTube channel here.

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LSR SD 2016 Kai McDonald MD

Dr. Kai MacDonald presents “50 Shades of Brain”, photo courtesy of Dan Carrigan

The next speaker was Kai MacDonald, M.D., Lasting Recovery’s Medical Director, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist with 25 years of study of and research into the brain.

I was looking forward to his presentation the most because I’ve been enthralled with the science of addiction for quite a while now, and I was not disappointed. My husband also enjoyed it thoroughly, as I’m sure did everyone else.

Dr. MacDonald possesses a (spoiler alert) shit ton of knowledge about neuroscience and addiction as a brain disorder, but more importantly, the ability to prsent all that information in an engaging, entertaining manner pretty much anyone can learn and benefit from.

Entitled “50 Shades of Brain: Black, White, and Grey in Addiction Treatment”,  this presentation discusses the “causal complexity” of addiction, explains the central opiate center of the brain, how addiction “hijacks” the brain’s dopamine system, how brains can be “plastic and static” allowing for both build up of muscle and scar tissue, and how addicts, like all other human beings, are both social and unique creatures who tend to need to take both group and individual recovery therapies into consideration.

I was surprised to hear that addicts who endorse the brain model of addiction exclusively accept less responsibility for their addiction-driven behaviors and actions, a sort of “the devil (in my brain) made me do it” analogy. I have been convinced for such a long time that understanding the science of addiction will evolve the treatment for it into something more than a spiritual “curative” that it gave me food for thought, upon which I suspect I’ll be chewing for some time to come.

Dr. MacDonald’s presentation – a must see, IMHO! – is available on LifeRing’s YouTube channel here.

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LSR SD 2016 Tracey Helton Mitchell

Tracey Helton Mitchell on hope and recovery


The next speaker was Tracey Helton Mitchell, a recovering addict with over 18 years clean and sober, and the author of recently published “The Big Fix: Hope After Heroin”, whose story I found so inspiring I rushed out to the merch table afterward to buy the book and caught her just in time to get it signed. (You can also get your own copy through the LifeRing Bookstore – see link in “Books and Movies” below.) 

Tracey started out by saying she was one of the subjects of an HBO documentary made and released in the ’90’s called “Black Tar Heroin: The Dark End of the Street”, which chronicled the lives of young homeless heroin addicts living on the streets of the tough Tenderloin District in San Francisco. And although heroin was her main drug of choice, she said she was basically addicted  to “more”. As in, “I’ll take more of that, please”, without much discrimination toward many substances. It also meant she had to do, and did do, almost anything to get her hands on “more” of whatever she could get.

Going to jail repeatedly and eventually being given a shot at a county-run treatment program (as opposed to simply just prison time) made all the difference for her, and she’s made the most of her life since. Now that an opiate epidemic has taken control over the entire country the way crack did the inner city in the 80’s, she feels that sharing the uniqueness of her experiences gives her the best opportunity to be a source of hope to addicts who think there isn’t any for them.

She calls herself “a recovery unicorn” – she hasn’t relapsed since stopping all of “more” – and is an advocate of  flexible recovery approachs tailored to suit the individual, something she’s felt she needed to do for herself along the way. Part of her plan included using LifeRing’s “Recovery By Choice” workbook – specifically the section on avoiding relapse – so she learned to find recovery in lots of different places, and encourages everyone else to do the same.

Tracey’s talk is available on LifeRing’s YouTube channel here.

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LSR SD 2016 Sarah Zemore

Sarah Zemore, Ph.D. discusses ARG’s preliminary recovery study results

The sixth speaker of the day was Sarah Zemore, Ph.D., Senior Scientist of the Alcohol Research Group of the Public Health Institute, who reported on the initial findings of a $40 million dollar longitudinal study they’ve been conducting via online surveys of the success rates of various treatment options and modalities – including mutual support groups including LifeRing, SMART Recovery, Women for Sobriety, as well as 12 Steps (and which LifeRing members were invited to participate in).

Dr. Zemore presented the information from the study to date, which is not complete but the final results of which will eventually be published in journals (and that will also be sent to us). So far, she said, the thing that’s stood out to her and her fellow researchers the most is the idea that “the opposite of addiction is connection”, something we’ve all heard anecdotally from a variety of sources over the years but which data analysis now seems to be bearing out. The final result of the study should be most interesting…

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Finally, our last scheduled speaker of the day, Dr. John Monterosso, PhD., USC researcher in addiction and self-control, was unable to make the conference due to an unexpected illness, and I was especially looking forward to his presentation, as well. The director of Lasting Recovery kindly filled in to talk to the group about the challenges they’ve faced in widening LifeRing’s reach in the San Diego treatment community, and some of the reasons why.

Since my hubby and I had been up since the crack of dawn (OK, 7:30, but still), we decided it was a good idea to make haste back to our hotel for a nap prior to the evening’s planned events, so I missed out on that last part.

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On Saturday evening, a large group of us met at a Chili’s Restaurant (right across the parking lot from our hotel, no less!) where we had a great chance to nosh on Baby Back Ribs and socialize a little more, and during which we were treated to a mini awards ceremony.

Per LifeRing Board member Tim Reith, here’s the skinny on that:

“There were six ‘LifeRing Pioneer’ awards. Historically, the ‘Pioneer’ term referred to the efforts associated with the first few years of LifeRing when things were just coming together and there were awards for those people who were sort of ‘in at the beginning.’ The BOD decided to retain the name; even though we are maturing, people are still breaking new ground and pushing things forward. Hence there are still, and there will always be, ‘Pioneers’ at LifeRing.

The BOD also decided to create a special award that would be given to one person from time to time…called the ‘Hall of Fame’ award, and it was awarded for the first time this year.
Pioneer Awards
Bobbi Campbell for coordinating the LifeRing Blog, now with almost 500 subscribers, assuming responsibility for the Newsletter, and assisting with our Facebook effort.
Lee Cockram for starting three LifeRing meetings near London and serving as the LifeRing Regional Representative for Europe.
David Fletcher for serving as the Regional Representative and providing overall leadership for Colorado.
Cindy Kemp for serving as the Regional Representative for the Northeast and organizing several LifeRing meetings in Greenwich, Connecticut.
Jasmine Sherk for serving as the Regional Representative for the Northwest, hosting the convenor conference calls, and crafting a new Opening Statement.
Lisa Swing-Corney for serving as Chair of the Regional Representatives and working to expand LifeRing.
Hall of Fame Award:
Kathleen Gargan: In recognition of her constant and tireless efforts in making LifeRing the vital and growing organization that it is today. Particularly in her home state Colorado!”
Once the dinner was over and most everyone left,  one of the very helpful wait staff who’d been serving us all evening came up to my tablemates and I to ask more about our organization, and proceeded to tell us his own story of addiction and recovery, and how much better life is for him now. For me, that was one of the highlights of the whole conference. It’s always uplifting to listen to people who’ve changed their lives, and you could feel this guy’s gratitude. It was a good end to a great night.
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Sunday, June 5th

Rich, Byron, and others gathered around at LifeRing's 2016 Congress

Rich, Byron, and others gathered around at LifeRing’s 2016 Congress

The Board of Directors and all interested parties reconvened at Lasting Recovery on Sunday morning to conduct their own annual meeting and Congressional elections of ballot measures and new BOD member candidates (Tim Reith and Mahala Kephart are stepping down from the Board, with the thanks and well wishes of us all).
The election is currently in progress, and results will be posted here on the website ASAP.
Rich and I exited Stage Left to take our friend Jackie to the airport, and then considered what else we might like to do for the day before heading home ourselves on Monday. We had a fine time – and I hope you have now, too. 🙂
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Web Information and Resources

Dr. Kai MacDonald Recommendations:

SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration)

Website: samhsa.gov Facebook: facebook.com/samhsa

The work of Nora Volkow, M.D., Director of the US National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA) at the National Institutes of Health, both in print and on the web.

For example, see Dr. Volkow’s TED Talk about why our brains get addicted here


Website/Dr. Volkow’s Page: drugabuse.gov Facebook: facebook.com/NIDANIH

“Pleasure Unwoven,” a film by Dr. Kevin McCauley. Dr. McCauley spoke at last year’s conference in Salt Lake City and was one of my favorites there, so I can highly recommend it, as well. (Link included in the “Books and Movies” section below)

Other Web Resources:

Lasting Recovery

Website: lastingrecovery.com Facebook: facebook.com/lastingrecovery Twitter: @lastingrecovery

Alcohol Research Group

Website: arg.org Facebook: facebook.com/alcoholresearchgroup Twitter: @argphi

Peter G. Dodge Foundation

Website: pgdf.org Facebook: facebook.com/pgdfoundation Twitter: @pgdfoundation

Books and Films

“The Big Fix: Hope After Heroin” by Tracey Helton Mitchell, available at our bookstore here or on Amazon here

The “Black Tar Heroin: The Dark End of the Street” documentary can be viewed in its entirety here

Dr. McCauley’s film “Pleasure Unwoven” can be viewed in its entirety here.


*Note to self: Get a better camera! Point taken.

**If I’ve forgotten anything or posted incorrect information here, for the love of God, somebody please tell me and I’ll fix it!



  1. Daniel on June 26, 2016 at 6:19 pm

    Bobbi, I was thinking about my past comment on this blog and also the conversation I just had with another Liferinger on the LSR Ireland email group, and our philosophy of working with what and who we already are in our recovery. While I cannot attempt to be a convenor due to various factors, perhaps I can create opportunities for people to meet informally who are either in Lifering already or wish to join and from that pool maybe a future convenor will develop? Due to 2 jobs and other obligations, I can’t commit much time, but I certainly could find the time to set up a coffee shop like meeting, pass out flyer promoting it, especially among the artist communities I am in (and they, like me, aren’t really into formal structure either), including flyers to chemical dependency places and the like. I could schedule a meeting at least once a month, maybe more, where we could just sit down and chat about LifeRing, recovery in LifeRing, LifeRing philosophy, etc. I can make the flyers myself, as being an artist I have the resources for that, so it wouldn’t cost LifeRing anything, and I can distribute the flyers on my own as well. Would this be something you all think would help? Do I need anyone’s permission, or can I just do it?

    • Bobbi C. on June 27, 2016 at 12:30 pm

      Hiya, Daniel! Thanks so much for your responses – great to hear from you here, and Rich sends you his best – and it’s funny: I read your questions about why there aren’t any LifeRing meetings in your neck of the woods but so many next door in Michigan, and thought to myself, “Good question!” And, it really is the most pressing question we face – how in the heck can we/do we get more meetings started?!

      For my two cents, I think there are likely two major factors involved: 1). There are probably people who would love to come to a LifeRing meeting, if only they knew we existed and/or if there was one available to go to, and 2). There are probably people just like yourself who would love to start or facilitate starting one if only they knew people would show up. In which case, the larger question becomes…how do we get 1& 2 together?

      I have no doubts your efforts would be very much appreciated, but technically LifeRing needs to know about it so as to register and list the meeting information here on the website, as well to advertise it here and on Facebook, etc. so as to try to help get the word out, as well. Additionally, the preference seems to be getting a convenor going and then letting them take the rains from there as opposed to the reverse…but that doesn’t mean there isn’t any other way to skin a cat 🙂 .

      For example, I know Craig’s created something called a “New Meeting Kit”, where he sends along brochures, books, signage, and the like to give someone some things to start with, as well as some info./ideas about what works well in attracting attendance. I’d be most happy to alert Craig to your thoughts here if you’d like him to get in touch with you and hash out how they could work if you’d like.

      Also, another idea I’ve had is to try to put out APB’s (All Point Bulletins, haha) here on the blog and on Facebook to try to see if there is, in fact, anyone “out there” in a specific area interested in attending/starting a meeting in a specific area, such as what I did here: https://lifering.org/apb-all-new-yorkers-out-there-looking-for-a-lifering-meeting/

      Further thoughts about any/all of that and what you might like to do from here


      • Craig Whalley on June 30, 2016 at 6:44 am

        Bobbi and Daniel,

        I deal with ‘prospective LifeRing convenors’ regularly at the LifeRing Service Center. We only have two requirements for a convenor: at least six months of continuous sobriety and agreement to our basic principles (Sobriety, Secularity and Self-Empowerment). Whenever someone can’t obligate themselves to a weekly meeting, or doesn’t quite meet the six month standard, I urge them to do what Daniel is suggesting: organize a less structured, informal, ‘unofficial’ LifeRing meeting. We don’t include that type of meeting on our website — we don’t want to list meetings without accurate location and date/time information — but there are other ways to reach out: drawing in a circle of friends; listing on Meetup.com (I’ve seen Meetup notices advertising a get-together ‘based on LifeRing principles’); sitting in a coffee shop with a sign and some flyers, etc. Eventually, someone able to convene a more formal meeting may surface, or a 2 or more may agree to co-convene on an alternating basis.

        LifeRing is an organization, but it’s also a set of ideas. The organization has to be, well, ‘organized’, but the ideas exist to be used by anyone. You might even be able to find someone who would send a few materials to you …


  2. Daniel on June 26, 2016 at 2:47 pm

    Bobbi, this was so good — thank you! And I sincerely hope Rich is doing well. I can’t help but wonder why we don’t have a LifeRing meeting in the Twin Cities area — neither Minneapolis nor St. Paul have even one, while SOS is here and so is SMART. I mean, I have built up my support groups over the years in LifeRing, and feel I have a good balance between online groups, such as the email groups in Europe, the Delphi Forumms, and chat has certaily played a big role in my recovery as well, but that is me — I can’t help but think of the look on the faces I see when telling someone in Minnesota that we have to meet online. You can see their spirit deflate at that news. I don’t really like f2f meetings myself, but that could also be that I have become accustomed to online. I can’t help but think of them rather than me — and wonder why we don’t have LifeRing in the Twin Cities when Michigan, our neighbor, has 15. peace and love, d

  3. Jane on June 23, 2016 at 6:08 pm

    Thank you Bobbi and congratulations.

    Jackie I would never have recognized you in a million years! I am so happy to hear that you are back on the east coast.

    I hope that Ewa was able to represent LSRsafe. Talk about coming a long way and being an anchor for so many of us. Ewa rocks.

    Thank you all for all you do.

    • Bobbi C. on June 24, 2016 at 2:38 pm

      Thanks, Jane. I’m sorry to say Ewa wasn’t able to make it, but she was truly missed!

  4. Dennis Meeks on June 23, 2016 at 5:05 pm

    Wow! Great job, Bobbi, a great summary and full of resources of the activities at this year’s Conference. Now those of us who could not be present can readily access the information.


    You rock this blog gig!

    • Bobbi C. on June 24, 2016 at 2:37 pm

      Aw, shucks, well, thanks Dennis…:)

  5. Jamie I on June 23, 2016 at 4:50 pm

    Just finished reading this ‘blogy’
    stuff. It was good to hear more from the conference. My friend
    George attended and he shared his experience with us here in the
    Vancouver area. I go to 2 meetings with him each week.
    He works really hard up here, putting a lot of time and effort to
    building Lifering in the area.
    Take care of your world and then
    It will take care of you!
    Jamie I

    • Bobbi C. on June 24, 2016 at 2:36 pm

      Thanks so much, Jamie. It’s great to hear you know and go to meetings with George – it was really nice to meet him, and indeed he seems like a dedicated person! 🙂